I’ve got a lot of complaints about a lot of things because I can be a critical perfectionist. But, my parents did one thing apparently really well judging from my peers and my opinion of their parents. My parents did a good job building an environment where I got comfortable expressing myself almost without regard to what the topic was. I’ve argued many points with my parents. I feel like I’m often from a different political world than they are. I’ve been outraged by them. And I never once got the feedback that the problem was in the fact that I communicated. The problems are the problems and the communication is infrastructure that everyone needs.
Communication is a big topic and not every way was good. It still isn’t good. I still don’t understand them as much as I wish I could in some alternate world. Some of my friends have enviably amicable and easy relationships with their parents. In the one part of communication which is sort of first amendment-ish where the right to start the conversation and keep going until you feel the issue has been expressed, my parents deserve platinum stars. Not everybody was raised to value that and I feel like it shows in the modern political environment.
The people who don’t treat expression like I do tend to do it for sensible peace making reasons. But I think ultimately it leads to a less desirable world where all the same disagreements are happening in people’s heads quietly leading to pathology. Put a disagreement into words and find the shape of the difference like it’s a science and revel in a world which produces support (and misguided belief) for so many different views. You gotta love reality or hate it in general. I hate certain behaviors, but I’m comfortable with different viewpoints. That’s one part of reality even I don’t pretend I can change.