Check this out. The Friendly Atheist pointed out a real creepy youtube video in “A Pastor Tells Women How To Dress Moderately.” See it for yourself. In my words, the pastor is saying that women are making it hard for him to avoid lustful thoughts.
I totally have lust toward women I don’t know at times. My apologies ladies. I don’t mean it and I don’t mind it. But it is my job to act appropriate and respectfully with women just as I should act appropriately with anybody, gender unspecific. There’s an obvious reason why lust exists. There’s no argument against controlling yourself except the argument that you are not in control.
I am in control. All those “mines” referred to by the pastor don’t know what I think about them because they do not need to know. My lust stays where it should be. If you want to figure out what my lusts are, subscribe to my lust RSS feed. I promise that I will consider adding you to my consideration when you tell me you want to be considered. And regardless, just as seeing a good volleyball player doesn’t mean she wants to play on my team, seeing a woman that affects my imagination is similarly meaningless.
Here I am upholding the validity and hope of monogamy alternatives, defending gays, threesomes, anti-tradition, what have you. And I’m also not taking away a woman’s right to be seen as she wants to be seen. Wearing jeans doesn’t mean she wants me looking at her ass. Wearing a push-up bra is probably done for comfort or fashion. It’s probably not a waiver of the right to define herself (or his cross dressing self).
Women, please consider my request to keep dressing as comfortably and attractively or as skimpily as you like. In return, I promise to walk that balance of appreciating aesthetics without reading into it. I think that’s the way of progress there. The pastor is nuts.