Check this out. The Friendly Atheist pointed out a real creepy youtube video in “A Pastor Tells Women How To Dress Moderately.” See it for yourself. In my words, the pastor is saying that women are making it hard for him to avoid lustful thoughts.
I totally have lust toward women I don’t know at times. My apologies ladies. I don’t mean it and I don’t mind it. But it is my job to act appropriate and respectfully with women just as I should act appropriately with anybody, gender unspecific. There’s an obvious reason why lust exists. There’s no argument against controlling yourself except the argument that you are not in control.
I am in control. All those “mines” referred to by the pastor don’t know what I think about them because they do not need to know. My lust stays where it should be. If you want to figure out what my lusts are, subscribe to my lust RSS feed. I promise that I will consider adding you to my consideration when you tell me you want to be considered. And regardless, just as seeing a good volleyball player doesn’t mean she wants to play on my team, seeing a woman that affects my imagination is similarly meaningless.
Here I am upholding the validity and hope of monogamy alternatives, defending gays, threesomes, anti-tradition, what have you. And I’m also not taking away a woman’s right to be seen as she wants to be seen. Wearing jeans doesn’t mean she wants me looking at her ass. Wearing a push-up bra is probably done for comfort or fashion. It’s probably not a waiver of the right to define herself (or his cross dressing self).
Women, please consider my request to keep dressing as comfortably and attractively or as skimpily as you like. In return, I promise to walk that balance of appreciating aesthetics without reading into it. I think that’s the way of progress there. The pastor is nuts.
You just hit on one of my few areas of expertise. I have this obscene fascination with the patriarchy movement, those that believe the man is the head of the household and should make all the decisions for everyone.
One of the hallmarks of this is that women should dress “modest.” This is the Christian version of women should wear a burka, and it all hinges on the ancient, BS copout of these men that a WOMAN is responsible for a mans lust. To me this has always just been a way for men to abjucate his responsibility for his own actions. To be able to say, “I did something wrong because SHE TEMPTED ME.” See Adam & Eve to see how long THIS idea has been around! You made a choice didn’t you buddy, own your own behavior.
Frankly, I think the whole modest thing is crap. Modest is different for everyone, just as feeling lust, and what they do about it, is the responsibility of the person who is feeling it. NO ONE forces you to feel something.
SO I’m actually with you on this. I will dress as I feel appropriate. How you feel about it is totally up to you!
Yeah. I’m sure people are lusting over me all the time but they are nice enough not to act on it. And being irrelevant is just that. The lust can be there. So what.
Thanks for the comment.